I hadn’t given the subject much thought until it came up in conversation yesterday with my mother-in-law and sister-in-law. I asked my mother-in-law if she called body parts by their proper name when her children were small or if she gave them cute names. She thought about it for a moment but couldn’t remember, and as I was trying to think about what my parents did, I couldn’t really remember either. There is a lot of literature out there that talks about the importance of calling it a penis and not a peepee or a vagina and not a vajayjay. Actually, the proper term for what you can actually see is vulva apparently but I know I certainly didn’t know what a vulva was until later on in life, HA!
As an aside, I’m slightly horrified that I just said penis and vagina (and vulva) on the internet! For shame!
I do remember my mother changing in front of me and not hiding her body from myself or my sister. She’d take us in the restroom stall with her when out in public and it was never an embarrassing thing. To us, being comfortable with our bodies was a normal thing. Janine at Janine’s Confessions of a Mommyaholic talks about it in this post too. Looking back, my father always changed behind closed doors and locked the bathroom door. That makes sense to me. Having young children of the opposite sex, it was probably easier that way than having to answer 100 questions about why we looked different.
I think about this with Ben a lot. Right now, I change in front of him. Bring him in the bathroom while showering, etc. Mostly because if I want to shower or change during the day, I have to, haha! It doesn’t concern me at the moment because, at 7 months old, I know he still looks at my boobs as food and doesn’t quite understand the male/female distinction quite yet. But when does that change? Should I be more modest in front of my infant son already?
Ladies with sons, do you have any advice?
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