This is a guest post by Kacey Mya Bradley.
Who doesn’t want to be happy? We all want that feeling of complete bliss where everything in our lives is going right. Unfortunately, that isn’t usually the case. With the stressors of work, family, relationships, bills and other struggles that you may be facing, happiness may seem far away. It’s often difficult to look past the hurdles of each day and embrace the positive.
The bad news is that your life will probably never be free from struggle. There will always be some problem or something that is bothering you. But the good news is that you can still be happy amidst these tough times! All it takes is a little bit of work and persistence to stay smiling through the good times and the bad.
Adopt the Right Mindset
To be happy, you have to think happy. Now, this is usually easier said than done. But that doesn’t mean it’s impossible. You might be stuck in a cycle of negative thoughts which only sink you deeper into the hole of despair. Negative thoughts will only bring about a negative life.
To break out of this cycle, start by identifying when these thoughts happen. At first, just take note of them. When you hear yourself start to think something negative, make a note of it either mentally or on paper. After you’ve identified the negative chatter going on in your head, your next step is to reverse it.
Every time you notice yourself thinking a negative thought, replace it with a positive thought. Even if you don’t believe it at all. If you think, “man today is going to be terrible” replace it with “today will be amazing”. If you think, “I can’t believe I did that, I’m so stupid” replace it with “I made a mistake and that’s okay”. Again, you don’t have to believe these positive thoughts when you are first saying them, but eventually you will start believing them.
The more you give yourself positive thoughts, the happier you will become. You’ll view situations in a better light and try to make the most out of every situation. We are creatures of habit, and this includes how we think. Change your thinking habits from negative to positive and you might just start to notice that your mood improves a bit, too.
Do What Makes You Happy
Obviously, you’re happier when you spend the day doing what you love rather than spending the day stuck in the office. But you can’t quit work altogether. So, start making some time in your schedule to do something that makes you happy.
Take a short walk at lunch instead of staying inside. Take a bubble bath once a week. Treat yourself to a Mani Pedi. Start each day by walking your dog. Curl up with a good book. Whatever it is that makes you feel happy and peaceful, schedule that into your life.
Sometimes, we are so busy that we forget to take time to ourselves. Actually writing on your calendar “me-time” will help you reserve the time and actually do something that makes you say “ahhhh”. Doing this will help you break out of your work, sleep, work routine and give you something to look forward to on a regular basis. Plus, “me-time” can actually improve overall concentration and productivity.
Know When to Seek Help
Unfortunately, sometimes we get stuck in a rut that we just can’t pull ourselves out of. It’s important to be able to identify these difficult times and seek help. If your sadness takes over your life, you have feelings of anger and self-loathing or you have drastic appetite changes, it’s time to do more than just take a bubble bath.
14.8 million adults in the United States are affected by Major Depressive Disorder, which causes their depression to interfere with their day-to-day lives. If you are feeling this way, you’re not alone and you can get help to feel better. Speak to a loved one or a professional about how you are feeling. This can be scary, but know that it is very much worth it.
Being happy should be a human right, but unfortunately it doesn’t work like that. Sometimes, being truly happy takes some work. But it’s definitely something to keep fighting for because being your happiest self is the grand prize, and who doesn’t want that?
Kacey Mya Bradley is a lifestyle blogger for “The Drifter Collective.” Throughout her life, she has found excitement in the world around her. Kacey graduated with a degree in Communications while working for a lifestyle magazine. She has been able to fully embrace herself with the knowledge of nature, the power of exploring other locations, cultures, and styles, while communicating these endeavors through her passion for writing and expression. Her love for the world around her is portrayed through her visually pleasing, culturally embracing and inspiring posts.
The Drifter Collective: An eclectic lifestyle blog that expresses various forms of style through the influence of culture and the world around us.
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