When I first decided to start this blog a while back, I had multiple reasons in mind as to what I wanted to say and that I wanted to accomplish. As it’s title suggestes, “happy” is one of those themes that I wanted to concentrate on. Up until this point, I haven’t really gotten very deep into what exactly I mean by “happy”. Generally, you could assume that I mean it in the simplest sense of the word. My psyc degree pushes me further though so I’d like to delve a little bit deeper into what this happiness actually means for me.
I’m not an unhappy person by any means. But I go about life, simply … satisfied, I guess would be the best way to describe it. But to me, there are always areas for improvement. Which is what compelled me to go poking in the Self Help & Wellness section of my local Chapters store. There are a few different books that I’d like to talk about eventually, but the one I want to start with is one that truly got the ball rolling for me.
The Happiness Project by Gretchen Rubin says many of the things that I’ve been thinking, I just didn’t know I was thinking them yet. In the first chapter, she explains it to her husband.
“I am happy – but I’m not as happy as I should be. I have such a good life, I want to appreciate it more – and live it better.” I had a hard time explaining it. “I complain too much, I get annoyed more than I should. I should be more grateful. I think if I felt happier, I’d behave better.”
This is exactly how I have been feeling for a long time, but it took stumbling upon this book to actually figure that out. I find that happens a lot in my life. I don’t know that I’m feeling a certain way or that I do something in particular until I run into someone who feels or does the same thing. Sometimes I guess it’s that little prompt of hearing it from someone else that triggers a realization in yourself.
I actually bought this book well over a year ago and read it then. But the message didn’t truly sink in. I had read all the contents, but they didn’t root deep enough for me to actually act on them. And they aren’t difficult things to do either. Gretchen suggests simple things, like get more sleep and find more fun. Those aren’t overly taxing things so do, but for one reason or another, I wasn’t ready at the time. I kept the book on my nightstand this whole time and looked at it periodically as other books came and went. Until the other day when I decided to pick it up again and this time, not only read it, but act upon it. And that’s where I am now. I started reading it again, slowly this time, taking the time to apply things to my own life and in my own way. Some things are easier than others of course. Get more sleep has been a breeze this time around, since I’m going to bed much earlier now at 7 months pregnant! Speaking of which, my pregnancy has been one of the reasons I wanted to go back to this book. I really believe that in order to be the best mother possible for my son, I need to take care of myself so that I am well equipped to take care of him.
This is getting lengthy, but I also want to point out something else that I really like. When I first bought this book and started reading it, I tweeted about the book and how excited I was to read it and, like you do, I added Gretchen Rubin’s Twitter handle in there. Which is @gretchenrubin, by the way. Much to my surprise, she tweeted back! Now that’s the type of response to make you want to read her book!
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