Often times as women, we are too quick to judge one another and not quick enough to empower and encourage each other. I found this a lot when speaking to other women (online and offline) while I was pregnant with Ben and in his first few months. There were some women who were so direct in their opinion that there is one right way to do things or they would criticize another woman for asking a question they thought was silly. It’s as if there is a constant competition to be a better mother, to have a better job, to have better clothing, to drive a better car, to live in a better house, etc. Why?
Does the car you drive really make you superior to someone else? Just because you breastfeed, does it make you a better mother than someone who feeds their baby formula? No, it doesn’t. Why the competition?
I was very lucky to join a group of women brought together on BabyCenter who were all having their babies in February when I was having Ben. We ended up creating a Facebook group because, like most people, we spent more time there than on any other forum. Now that our children are all around 8 months old, I consider these women to be true friends and I’m so glad to have met them. We’re there to listen, offer advice, laugh, cry, and just support each other without judgement. We help each other when we’re in need and we celebrate each milestone of our children with one another. When you feel this kind of support, you feel like you are a great mother and you can get through the toughest day.
I recently joined another group of wonderful and supportive women. I’ve been a part of Project Dream International for a short period of time, but have already received such an outpouring of encouragement, advice and help to succeed with them. When I was trying to decide whether or not I wanted to partner with Shaklee, the biggest choice I had to make was between a basic partnership on my own, or a Gold plus partnership as part of a team who would be willing to train me and work with me. There was quite a difference in the financial investment and I wasn’t sure if it would be worth it. I finally decided that if I was going to do this, I didn’t want to do it alone. I was still concerned about the cost, but I decided that I would work as hard as I could to make that money back and if that’s all I did, I’d be satisfied with that. I’m so, so glad that I didn’t do this alone! The women that I am now working with are so happy to share successes, to answer questions, give advice, and hold your hand through it if that’s what you need! When one of use does well, we all do well and we truly want to see each person succeed. It was definitely worth the larger investment!
This is what we should be doing! We should build each other up, not tear each other down. There are too many terrible things going on in this world for us to turn our backs on each other, especially in times of need. Hurting others doesn’t do anything for you or your character, but helping sure does!
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